More often than not, I speak to friends and family members about what it takes to rise above the current state of our life and situations, being remarkable and in turn, being successful at the things that matter to us. On many occasions, I find that we have a natural tendency to accept things as they are, subconsciously living a life that has been modeled out for us by society without really giving a thought to what our personal journeys are and how to set ourselves on a path to being successful, at whatever it is we have defined as our desired outcome out of life. In other words, being victims of the ‘system’.
Sometimes, we do not even know what success means to us as individuals. You see, every single one of us is unique, to the last strand of our DNA. The specific configuration of you today is the only you that will ever waltz through the existence of our universe. In the words of Dr. Seuss,
[Tweet “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You. – Dr. Seuss”]
As such, I strongly believe that every one’s journey through life is different, it has to be. But we have to make the conscious effort to create that journey for ourselves. Given, there are models in life that have been proven time immemorial.
Birth >>> School >>> College >>> Job >>> Marriage >>> Reproduction >>> Family >>> Social Security >>> Death
There are different variations of this model, but my point is that these are ‘models’. They are not set in stone as the way life should be lived, or the way our journeys have to go. At some point, we have to sit down and give some serious thought to what we want out of life, and what it means to be successful at those things. Models help us through, especially at the early stage of life before we reach our ages of accountability, so that we do not miss the bus and inflict irreparable damage on ourselves.
But, as soon as we reach our ages of accountability, it is a imperative that we challenge the status quo and commit to the unique journey that we want to embark on, so that the cost of our choices are clear to us as we go. If we know where we are going and what we stand for, then it is easier not to make choices that sabotage our happiness and sense of fulfillment. When we make the right choices, then we save ourselves from becoming victims of the ‘system’, regardless of what or where the ‘system’ is.
Ask yourself questions like-
- What occurs naturally to me?
- What makes me happy?
- How can I integrate the things that make me happy and the things that occur naturally to me?
- What do I need to achieve to feel successful at those things?
- What steps can I take in sequence to enable me achieve what I need to feel successful at those things?
- What type of people do I need to surround myself with to increase my likelihood of achieving those things?
- What values do I need to have to increase my likelihood of achieving those things?
- What are the possible distractions and bad habits that can prevent me from achieving those things?
- What activities can I integrate into my daily life to prevent me from exhibiting the bad habits and catering to the distractions?
Knowing these, you can have some clarity on what your own unique model through life should be. Also check out Tips to Rising Above [for people who want to be successful].